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On Being A Dad

On Being A Dad

SuperDadTHE DAD JOB

I’m a dad. My oldest boy is 11 years old and I’m beginning to ask questions like, “Okay so what is it I’m supposed to be doing with these kids besides getting them to church, school, practice, playing Nintendo, wrestling and taking turns pulling fingers, etc? I mean what is my dad job really?”

I was recently looking at the story of the birth of Christ (it’s December – go figure!). It struck me in  a profound way, that Joseph (Jesus’ earthly father) is not in the picture after Jesus hits age 12. I mean we see that Joseph is getting Jesus to all the places he needs to go (in the one story we have of Jesus’ adolescence, Joseph takes the family to Jerusalem for the traditional pilgrimage), and then we don’t really hear any more after that.

But what we see of Joseph in this story is as profound as any earthly dad story can be. And, I believe, is reflective of what our job as dads really is. You probably remember the story -  (look in Luke). Jesus is 12 years old, the family travels to Jerusalem, a little miscommunication occurs and Jesus’ parents leave Jerusalem thinking he’s in the back seat of someone els’s station wagon safe and sound?

Wrong. Jesus is left in Jerusalem. So three days, one ancient Amber Alert, and lots of prayers later, Joseph and Mary find Jesus back in Jerusalem at the temple hanging out with the teachers and priests. As any very frightened parents would, they ask, “Why did you do this to us? Didn’t you know we were looking for you?” Some of us might have added some more colorful phrasing.

Jesus simply says, ‘Why were you looking for me. Didn’t you know I had to be in my Father’s house?” Whatever your take is on Jesus’ response, let’s focus on Joseph for a moment. Why is it that from this moment on – we don’t see or hear from Joseph anymore? Did he die? Did he leave the family? Did he transfer to northern Africa with some carpenter work-trade program? Truth is – we don’t really know.

Reading between the lines, we learn that Joseph did the one thing that every dad hopes to accomplish. At least what every dad should like to accomplish. That is – Joseph, as an earthly father, brought Jesus to a place where he finally realized that the Heavenly Father was his REAL Father. And here – Jesus turns his vocation not to carpentry, but to the work of God.

My dad job is to get my kids to that same place. I don’t know that it will happen when they’re twelve. It might take a few weeks or months longer (years for some?). But the point is the same. If I can bring my kids to a place in life where they finally turn their lives over to God – their heavenly Father – then I’ve done my job. I don’t really need to be in the story after that.

Heroic Impact

Heroic Impact

Coming Soon. Lee & Ginger will soon be posting info on the SuperHero Training workshop and other teacher training workshops they provide through Cadre Ministries. Check back soon. Email lee@evenkeele.com for more info.

Advent Within (Pt. 1)

Advent Within (Pt. 1)

Click HERE to listen to “The Advent Within” (Part 1)

This is a sermon I preached on December 6th about the advent of the Christ. Specifically – the announcement of Gabriel of the coming child to Mary. I focused on how his announcement translates into our lives as people who are intended to reproduce the Christ in our lives daily.

The Missionary Struggle

The Missionary Struggle

I haven’t been a missionary for long. Just two trips, really. Two trips to Thailand. Two short trips to a place that one learns to love immediately, but doesn’t quite know how to love well, because it’s all so foreign. But one thing I learned while I was over there has more to do with me than anything else. It’s the truth that I live an excessive life. I have an excessive amount of house, an excessive amount of money, an excessive amount of food, an excessive amount of clothing, and the list goes on and on.

I think most every missionary from the U.S. must perhaps struggle with living with excesses when others around the world live happily with so little. It’s not just about giving from our excess (though that’s a big part of it). It’s really about understanding that happiness comes from an inner peace that transcends amounts (whether large or small). It comes from learning that we can live at peace with God and the world around us as long as we remain in Christ and have within us the hope that Christ brings.

I still struggle with feelings of guilt over having so much. I’m sure many who have gone on missionary trips have the same struggle. The question is: will I allow myself to forget about it? Or will I do something? I think the answer largely remains to be seen.

All-Sufficient Grace

I was reading last night in Brennan Manning’s “Ragamuffin Gospel.” I’d heard it was good, and finally managed to get my hands on a borrowed copy. Only a few pages in, I can see why people have recommended it. It certainly could be a life-changing book. It directs a person toward a grace-centered approach to the gospel of Christ. I like it.

But really, whether I like the book or not is irrelevant. What is relevant to me is that it made me think about something. I have a hard time being gracious to myself. More specifically, I have a hard time feeling as if God would, could, or is gracious toward me. And, it isn’t that I think God is incapable of grace. I mean after all, I don’t have any probelm seeing God as capable of being gracious and forgiving toward any and all others. He forgives murderers, rapists, liars, and all kinds of immorality every day. But something in my mind always says, “Yeah, but that’s somebody else. Then, there’s you! (me).” And grace, or at least feeling grace, doesn’t come easy.

Usually, for me, this comes out in thoughts about quitting ministry. I think about it. I wouldn’t say often, but I would say regularly. I sometimes wish I had some job that I could go to and just do it and then come home and nobody would care whether I was perfect or not – whether I had everything “together” or not. I wouldn’t feel pressured to wear a plastic smile or ask people how they’re doing when I really don’t feel like hearing about it.

Here’s why I stay in. If I leave the ministry and if everyone else who struggles with sin leaves the ministry, there won’t be anyone left. The ones who will be left will be the ones who always wear their plastic smiles, and ask you how you’re doing when they really don’t care. On the surface, it will be nice for everyone. But there will be no genuineness coming from those in ministry.

I appreciate Manning’s works. I appreciate his struggle with alcoholism. I appreciate that he is able to understand grace in the midst of it. I appreciate his understanding that God doesn’t expect perfection and that, in fact, we are created in such a manner that God actually expects us to be imperfect. And so we are.

I was thinking of Paul’s thorn in the flesh. We don’t know what it was, but we understand the nature of it. It is that thing in our life that makes us wonder, “Is God’s grace sufficient — for me.” And so, like Paul, we repeat our pleas for rescue from the thorns in our flesh. By faith, we must accept that God’s answer to us is as it was for Paul, “My grace is, indeed, sufficient for you.”

I found myself last night praying – Lord, is your grace sufficient for me? Today I find myself in two places. First, in my head, able to tell myself that God’s grace is, indeed, sufficient. But finding it more difficult to feel inwardly. But it is comforting to remember that Jesus befriended, ate with, and socialized with people who were mired in sinful lives. It gives me hope to know that were he here with me in the flesh, he would have no problem sitting at my table.

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Open Theism

Several years ago, I was studying eschatology (what’s going to happen at the “end”) in the Bible and ran accross a prominent theologian named Clark Pinnock. Since then, he’s become one of my favorite writers. Pinnock advocates what is often called the “Open Theism” view. I do not pretend to speak for Pinnock or even to try and assert a definition of “Open Theism” that would necessarily coincide with his views, but I do want to explain it the best way I know – and then ask you what you think.

First of all, traditional reformed evangelicalism (aka Calvinism) believes in a high level of predeterminism. That is the idea that God views time (past, present and future) as if it were a single point. Additionally, God is able to view time (a single point) from every direction simultaneously. God knows with absolute certainly the entire past, present and future, but it has all been predetermined. This particular view is gaining support within other fundamentalist churches, such as So. Baptist, and is likely to begin gaining influence even in traditionally Arminian churches, such as Christian Churches and Churches of Christ. So when the Bible speaks of “predestination” it is, according to traditional reformed theology, quite possibly speaking of God’s predetermined outcome for the world as a whole. Not all in the reformed tradition are full five point Calvinists, but it is not unusual to hear those in the reformed tradition speak about this predeterminism as if they were also talking about the Sovereignty of God. In other words, in the mind of a Calvinist, if God does not or can not know the future, then he cannot be defined as sovereign.

On the other hand, the traditional Arminian view is that God’s sovereignty includes the power to create a world with other free agents in which it would be impossible to know the future with concise certainly as free agents are, well, free – and thus, somewhat unpredictable. The idea is that God created the world and predestined, not specifically who would be in Christ, but that all those who put their faith in Christ would be redeemed. Predestination here is limited not to God’s specific choice, but to his general election according to faith in the gospel.

Open Theism is, in my opinion, the natural conclusion of Arminianism. That is that God has a general plan, but the result or conclusion of this plan is somewhat “open.” In other words, God did A, hoping for B, but created action A knowing he might get response C through Z or a myriad or infinite number of responses. With that in mind, God does not nor can he know specifically how the human world will respond to the message of Jesus. This being the case, the end of the world, at present, remains “open.” God then, is fluid in his interaction with the word, but consistent in his character. He is free to choose how he will act or react to humanity, and his actions are not necessarily predetermined in the “reformed” tradition, but his options are predetermined according to his nature and his character.

So, God does A, hoping for reaction B. If God gets reaction B – he may choose to respond once again with C or D, assuming that response C and D are both within his character to do so. So you see, God is not predictable, but neither is he capricious. God is fluid and active in his relationship with men, but is not arbitrary. God is divinely ignorant of how we might respond to him, but he is not incapable of handling with divine grace and authority every situation, no matter how chaotic it might seem to us.

So I ask, what is your position?

Is God sovereign in the reformed tradition? Does God know all past, present and future events in specific detail, having predermined all the specific events of the universe? Is that how you define God’s sovereignty?

Is God sovereign in the Arminian tradition? Is God’s knowledge of the future limited to his ability to predict the behavior of our human free will agency?

Or taken to the extreme – is it possible that God’s knowledge of the future is non-existent – having made us agents of free will, and capable of choosing a path completely unknown to God – even though he is supremely able to handle any choice we make?

What are your thoughts?

Strategy for Local Outreach

For those on the Local Missions Team – you’ll be getting e-mail updates. But I’m going to blog about it first.

I had a good meeting today with S.B. who works with “Communities that Care.” Her job is to find the areas of dysfunction and provide prevention measures. It really seems like a cool job. Anyway, looks like she’s given us a couple of really good opportunities. WE tried to divide it out into two basic “approaches.”

First – research existing ministries and partner with an existing outreach ministry to children that best suits our particular congregation and our focus.

Second – talk to leaders in the community and research “holes” that need to be filled in terms of immediate need – for the purpose of new ministry development.

So two targets – partner with an existing ministry and build a necessary one. I’m interested in hearing from any readers or other Crossroads members who have good ideas about which ministries we might partner with. I’ve heard of one called “The Zone” that focuses on teens. That one is an option. I also know some of our members are involved with Open Door Crisis Pregnancy Center. That’s a good option, too.

As for building a new ministruy – Sondra gave me a really good idea, but it would definitely take the passion and involvement of other people. Her idea was to build a Faith-Based Community Youth Leadership Organization. Basically providing Peer Support for prevention, leadership training opportunities, and service projects. Who do we put on that one?

Thing is. I really want to avoid spreading ourselves too thin. I don’t want to be involved in 100 different ministries and being only nominally effective at them all. I want to push that we do just one or two things. And we do them well. ONE ministry that we partner with. ONE ministry that we work to develop. And for now – we leave it at that.

Any thoughts?

Thanks Martha

I want to thank Martha for taking the heat on an issue that I struggle with. And I think it really just hit me that I relate to her so well. You know the story right? Well, here it is, just in case.

“As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, ‘Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!” “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”

I thought about this last week, but this story didn’t hit me until last night. I’m Martha. I’d like to be Mary, but I’m Martha. I’m Martha because when it comes to service or ministry, I’m just like her. I get worried and upset about many things. I worry about getting to all my meetings on time. I worry about making sure everything gets done thats supposed to get done. I worry about preparing sermons, preparing lessons, preparing for counseling sessions, preparing for tomorrow, preparing my kids for school. All this preparing I do.

But Jesus lesson is simple and pointed. All these things are things we can get worried and upset over. But really there’s only one thing that we need to make sure we are “worried about.” In this context – sitting at the feet of Jesus and listening to him. In the sermon on the mount, he taught the same lesson in “outline” form. I just read again, Matthew 6:25-34 and the last two verses strike me with relevance once again, “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

As I work on simplifying things for the my good friends, brothers and sisters at Crossroads, I really should work on simplifying things for myself!

Any thoughts: How would simplifying your life make a difference? What would have to go? What would you begin doing that you don’t already do?

Aways Be Prepared


If I remember correctly, “Always be Prepared” is the motto of the Cub Scouts of America. Or maybe it’s the Boy Scouts. Or maybe it’s both. Honestly, I don’t remember, I was only a part of a Cub Scout troop for about one Cub Scout meeting. I had a rather traumatic experience. At only 9 years old, I was invited by a school friend to attend a Den meeting. Which was fine, and fun, until I met the Den mother. I’m sure she was a beautiful lady, and possibly still is. But I remember that her eyes didn’t point the same direction and she smoked. I was unfamiliar with both – and quite frankly it was frightening. I have nothing against Marty Feldman – he’s my favorite actor in Young Dr. Frankenstien, but I was only nine years old and was a bit sheltered. Quite frankly, I wasn’t, well, prepared.

One of our mission goals at Crossroads is to “Become Equipped for Ministry.” I am so glad the Bible gives us a key strategy to make this happen. As Paul wrote to Timothy, “All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work.” As we continually engage in our mission to “be equipped,” the Word of God must forever be our guide. What strikes me as fantastic about this verse is that the Bible is profitable to equip us for every good work! In other words, the Bible says that the Bible itself will help us to “always be prepared” for every good work.

Can you imagine that! The Bible equips us to help people cross the street, be house moms, be hard working grunts on the job, be honest, dedicated, lovable and loving, and every other good thing you can think of for us to do. That even includes the “religious” things like prayer, song, preaching, teaching, giving, and remembering our Savior in the Eucharist. All of these are good – and the Word equips us to do them all.

There are and will be those moments in life when we run into our cross-eyed smokers and feel like a nine year old boy in the face of the eerily unknown. I wasn’t ready then. Even now – I don’t think I’ll be attending any Den meetings. But the more we become aquainted with the Word, the Bible, the stories of faith and instructions God gives for living – the more prepared we will be not just to survive those traumatic events, but to do good works in the face of them.

Where to start? If you’re just getting acquainted with Scripture, I recommend starting in the New Testament with the gospel of Luke, Acts, the letter of James and 1 Peter. If that’s too much, focus on the Sermon the Mount in Matthew 5-7 and the book of James. Those are great places to start for simply learning how to live.

Have a great week.

Do We Really Want Men of Conviction?

Our churches are crying out for men of conviction to fill the pulpits. Men who are not soft on doctrine. Men who are confident of where they stand and are, at the same time, able to speak the truth in love in a way that communicates to people of all ages, all backgrounds, varying levels of education and spiritual maturity. But is this really what we want?

I’ve experienced myself, and seen in VERY recent history, that churches do indeed want men of conviction, as long as their convictions are the same convictions held by the majority of parishioners. A recent case has me wondering…

A man I have never met before was recently asked to step away from his ministry position because of his views on women’s role in the church. Even though, according to some, he had agreed not to push the issue or teach his particular view in his home congregation, he was asked to leave. A teenager was asked, “Was it okay for the elders to fire this person because he didn’t have the same view as they did on this particular issue?” I guess what we have to ask is – why were they going to fire him? Was his doctrine anti-Christian or sinful? If so, did he need firing or did he need Scriptural rebuke? Was his doctrine based on opinions about some issue addressed (or not addressed) in the Bible? If so, did he need to be fired? Or did there need to be clear, open, and honest communication?

Honestly, from a business and legal perspective, the elders of any church have the “right” to fire anyone they want for possibly any reason. I have a hard time, however, finding Biblical precedent for getting rid of an evangelist for “doctrinal differences.”

Firing someone because they refuse to repent of sin? Sure. Firing someone because they’ve denied the Christ or begun to Judaize the believers? Sure. But firing someone because they have a different view on some issue? Come on! I know – elders have a right to do this. But think of what this creates for ministers. Again, our churches cry out for men of conviction. But what we really want is men whose convictions look very similar if not exactly like ours.

I know what it’s like to be a person of convcition. I know what its like for people to value their own opinions above friendship. I’ve experienced this very thing myself. It hurts. Let me tell you point blank what this creates.

It creates an atmosphere where men who truly seek to study and seek out truth, will be afraid to change their minds – whether their change of mind is right or wrong is not relevant here. Sometimes we’ll get it right. Sometimes we won’t. But we’ve developed a system of leadership among some churches that perpetuates the status quo at all costs. So a change of mind for the better or for the worse is simply not permitted. We’re not just interested in maintaining doctrinal purity, but we are often even more adamant about maintaining doctrinal stagnancy.

The climate says, “Believe what we believe, or else!” “Tell us what our itching ears want to hear!” Even if what someone ears want to hear is right, it is not the obligation of the minister to scratch those bigoted lobes.

It is sad that today’s ministers must walk on theological eggshells. Free to think as long as their thinking stays within the confines of the popular opinion. Which is, as you can see, not really freedom at all.

The question that was asked the teen resurfaces. “Was it okay that our elders fired someone who didn’t believe what they believed about women’s role in the church?” I think there is a fundamental problem with the question. At least, there’s something else that has to be addressed first. The underlying question is: Should we, as a church, develop or have an atmosphere that really encouraging people to think for themselves and not merely parrot popular theological ideas? Forget about whether or not elders have a right to fire a minister, for certainly they do. The real question is: Is that the kind of church we ought to be? A church that forces teachers and preachers to say what’s always been said?

Let me tell you. There are, without a doubt in my mind, hundreds if not thousands of ministers in our churches out there that simply dont’ see eye to eye with their elders or the larger congregation about many things. And I’m convinced many of them are dealing with very real psychological issues because of their fear to talk about what they really beleive.

What will happen if these preachers start to say what they really think? I’ll tell you what will happen. Some churches will veiw it as a “fresh wind.” Some of these preachers will be labeled “heretics” and cast aside on the unbiblical grounds of “doctrinal differences.” But something else will happen as well. Other men who see that this kind of boldness can and does exist, will begin to develop the courage within themselves to preach what they beleive to be true regardless of what the pewsitters think. Some will be persecuted, but all will benefit.

So does today’s church really want men of conviction? Well, whether she does or not – God knows she needs them.